A Way of Teaching Children

Today I went to TESCO with my friend to buy grocery....Well you know....End of Month, food storage in the house also getting lesser and lesser....Is time to restore my food..!!!! Well, buying food or TESCO is not something I want talk about this time. Is the incidence that I saw in TESCO that makes me discover something important in life.

I was standing at the bread section to buy bread..while at the same time, my friend went to get a trolley. I saw a family of 4, consists of father,mother,brother about 6 yr old and sister 4-5 yr old...they were just standing beside me.Well, at first I dint pay much attention on them. Suddenly, I heard somone screaming...!!!! I turned towards the direction where the sound came from, I only realised that is the mother that screaming at the daughter...the second word that I heard came out from her mouth was.. :" SIAO AR YOU !!!!!!!" which means " CRAZY AR YOU!!!!" well....a bit shocked to hear something like that from a mother...I still focus my sight on that family.....i only know that actually is the daughter that squeezed the bread in the trolley. " WHY YOU WANNA DO THIS". -end of story-

Well....let me asked you 1 question..............what if..........few years later, the girl scold back the mother :" SIAO AR YOU!!!!!" ....what would you think? Well, maybe the mother will gives her daughter a good slap on the face....~ Correct? How could a girl scold a mother crazy.....but if they remember the incident today.....is the mother that scolded the daughter crazy in the public at first...well, why if a daughter scold her mother everyone would think is wrong....? Why no one will say the mother wrong if she scold her daughter crazy..that is not fair...~ I am not talking about fairness here, I just wanna say that , a lot of time..when we trying to say someone is wrong, try to ask yourself whether did you make the same mistake..

As a parent, it is not only important to give their children care..love...education..money...comfort......That is not enough...The last and the most important is to show them the correct way of behaving, talking, dealing with other people..a proper manner. How a child learn by the way, actually they learn by observing what we adult do everday...how we turn on a TV, how we brush our teeth, how we wash our face, how we use fock and spoon....and HOW WE BEHAVE ~!!!! and from who usually they will learn with???? Parents......why??? because most of the child spend most of the time with their parents at home. It is quite naive but it is true that most of the child would think that what their parents did was always correct, so they have no doubt in questioning the way they behave or the way they talk. So in order to teach your child properly, it is not telling them that :" you shouldnt do this, you shouldnt do that." it is by showing them the correct way of behaving and talking...you must set a good role for them. Because they will follow you when they grow up. Just like a kid who smokes...I wont be surprised to find out that actually one of their parents also smoking at home. Because they set a bad example for their child. Just imagine a doctor trying to convince a patient to stop smoking......if the doctor himself also smoking, do you think his advise will be convinsing?

Well, how to teach a proper child. I generally do not agree that scolding a child is a good way of teaching them, in fact we need to let them know what mistake they have done. Back to the incident, why not the mother correct her mistake by telling her politely for example :" you shouldnt do this." instead of asking :" why you wanna do this" . Instead of scolding her crazy.......why not the mother explain to her daughter that squeezing a bread is wrong because other people would like to eat a proper bread, not a bread that already being squeezed. By scolding her daughter crazy, the daughter will remember in her mind that ( crazy is actually a word used to scold people who made a mistake) so she indirectly learn form her mother and I wont be surprised if next time her daughter scold somone crazy.

I hope I can talk more on this topic.....sadly, i need more time to study..well, I think I will continue next time when I am free.~

Another good example: If you want your children respect you and treat you nicely, you must do the same thing to thier grandparents first.

Exhausted

Shit !!..!!..!!..!! Exam are getting nearer and nearer. Nowdays I feel tired extremely easy, basically i feel tired all the time. Until I have no mood to smile in university. Some of my friend thought that I was angry at them.....Ish..~~ How innocent..!! I am not!!!!Maybe I was too tired to laugh, I dont wanna pretend to be a very happy guy if I really feel exhausted.My eyes aching most of the time, I feel pain all over my body and I feel that my energy keeps draining away from my body...time passes very fast, until I cant imagine how much time i ve wasted everday......everyday when I reached home, for sure I will take a nap from 7-9pm, only start study from that time onwards, hopefully that I can stay up late until 2-3am...but sadly,i dint make it most of the time.......Tired..really tired....Tired until I dont have mood to talk to my housemate, tired until I dont feel like going out for dinner with friends, I have more nightmares than last time, sometimes, I was frightened until I woke up in the middle of the night. During the nightmares, I only remember I keep on arguing with poeple in my dreams, to show my frustration......maybe i never show it in the reality, it ends up coming out all from my dream. Every morning i wake up, I dont feel energetic...I feel lethargic...............dont feel like getting up from bed, body aching....eyes burning.....what's wrong with me......????? my appetite still very good,I am not depressed....I feel as I gonna get sick everyday..........................................damn..........maybe I need a break...........................I still remember it has been a long time i never have a good night sleep....~

War Zone

STRESSSS!!!! STRESSSSS!!!! STRESSSS!!! Nowadays I dont know what's is going on with me...Either the time really fly, or my time management skills deteriorated. Besides busy catching up the things that taught in the class, my CSCF (Community and Family Case Study), my TBL( Task Based Lerning) presentaion, my Research project. I basically dont have time to study my books. Last time, i used to read a lot when studying in KL. Where i can easily finish reading 5 diseases in one day. Now, i only manage to read average 1 disease every night. At most i can finish reading two disease. (If I manage to finish reading 2 diseases, I considered it as a productive day, If I manage to finish 3 diseases, I would go dance around Seremban!!!!) In addition, my group have been in big trouble recently, many professional issues and learning attitude issues being questioned by most of the lecturers. Sigh, I hope those people who made a mistake know it, so that they wont bring anymore trouble to our group, being scolded by lecturers and being hated. things are messing up in my life. Feel damn tired yet I am helpless, some of my friends dont take the assignment seriously, what can I do????? But i will be affected as well because we are in a same group. Sigh, suddenly I miss Penang, Seremban for me....................IS JUST A WAR ZONE.

CKS's view of Seremban *

Life and Death -How you see it?

Today, during my lecture we are discussing about " Palliative Care", which means we provide a type of care for those patients who are terminally ill and have no chance of surviving. In order way, we care for those patient who are dying.

When talking about this type of care, or more specific is in order to carry out this kind of care, first we need to understand the meaning of the word "Life" and "Death" . Usually, most of the time, especially chinese, would prefer to avoid talking about this issues, maybe they will talk about Life, but hardly "Death". Some dont even think about how will it, how's the feeling will be when they are actually dying....not now, but in the future. Honestly, "Die" keeps on floating in my mind from time to time.

First, I would like to talk about "Life". From time to time, I always wonder, why am I in this world in the first place? Why am I having a life now? Why am I responsible to be someone called Kean Seng in this world? Just like an ordinary people, born as a baby, going through childhood, learn how to talk, speak, crawl, walk,run....Going to school, learn how to read, gaining knowledge, having fun with friends,exam, holiday, entering university, choosing a course you have interest in,finally graduate...entering the rat race in the society, earn money, start building own family, married, have kids, working harder for another 30-40 years and retired finally...become elderly, waiting for their children to take care of them....and finally....waiting to die. Basically, this is basically the stages of life where everyone will go through, BUT...how you define "LIFE" is definetely different from one to another.

Every morning, when I accidentally look at the mirror, I will look at myself a little longer. I will stare at the mirror. Looking at my face...and talking to the mirror " WHY AM I LIVING IN THIS PERSON BODY", why must I breath,eat,sleep,walk,happy and cry with this body? Why am I in this world. I always ask the GOD "Why you wants me to come in to this world?" "Is there anything you want me to complete into this world?" Sometimes I keep on thinking and thinking, and i am tired of finding out the reason why am I here. Some of my friends said to me that, coming to this world is to enjoy yourlife, you done good in your past life so you can become human in this life. Some told me that because you have done something bad and you need to come into this world to do good, so that when you died, you can achieve nirvana where you no need to come back into this world again. Well, I dont know which 1 i think is more appropriate.Some people coming to this world not only never do something good, but end up hurting and doing bad things to other people. Some just come into this world, just become a normal human doing normal things everyday until the day they leave this world; Maybe this is the reason why I wanted to become a doctor since I was a small kid. Since small, I have been thinking about this problem many times, i keep on searching for the truth, why am I here? Not because I dont understand the meaning of life and I dont appreciate life. I understand what is life and i do aprreciate it alot so I need to find a reason why am I here, so I wont be wasting my time and do what I supposed to do, before I leave this world.

People may think that I am silly when I said this, but at least I think is normal for me to think so. Sometimes I think that maybe god wants me to come into this world to help the human beings. I admit that I am not someone who can influence the world and I also do not have supernatural power to help human beings. But at least I have a completely functioning 4 limbs with me, which I think I can use it to help people. I think that my purpose to come into this world with a completely healthy body and funtioning limbs is that I am here to help those who are handicapped, who are sick, who were borned less fortunate than I. I think that I am here to help them out. God gave me a healthy life when I came to this world, and now I am here to carry out my duty to help those who is sick and unfortunate. I dint mean that those who studying business or engineering or architect are not good and not helping people. I believe that, either directly or indirectly they have already helped many people in their life, from donating millions or thousands of money to a old folks home or charity, donating their clothers , or even helping an old man cross a road is considered as helping those who need. I prefer to take up medicine because I prefer to help people in a different way. I prefer to help people with my time, my energy and my knowledge rather than my money.

My Internal Medicine Results!!

Finally today we got our End of Posting (EOP) result, I only managed to get "B" for my Internal Medicine. SOB SOB T.T , a bit dissapointed...because i have tried my best to do everything very well. All my presentation, my on call report, case summary, case report. I personally think that i did quite well during the exam, because I only unable to answer 1 question asked by the examiner. She is also quite happy and satisfied with my case report and case summary. She told me that I currently doing quite well and ask me to keep it up, so I sort of expecting my result to be slightly higher. But sad to say that, I only got "B". Some of my friend told me that because my examiner this time is one of the most strict examiner in IMU, but I think no matter how strict she can be, as long as i managed to answer the questions correctly, I should be given credit.
Though I am a bit dissapointed, but I dont think this will kill off my desire to learn in medicine. My primary objective is to become a good and caring doctor next time, not a doctor who can only passed all the exam with distiction. Although i must admit that getting distinction in exam is a good thing for everyone, but if I got just average, I dont think it will stop me from doing what I want. I want to be a good doctor in the future!! not only a good medical student.

My Parents - PART I

Talking about the word "Parents" I really like to know we should define the word “Parents”. Parents meaning someone who we called them just father and mother? Parents meaning those who gave birth to us? Well, I really hope that I can find the correct answer.

When I was born, when I was totally incompatible with life if without my parents, when I still don’t know how to look for foods or even put the foods into the mouth myself, when I was sick, when I was sad, when I was hurt, I remember that my parents are the first one that come to me.

When I was a small baby, my parents woke up 3-4 times in one night to feed me milk, just to make sure that I am not hungry.

When I was sick, they are the one who suffer together with me. They will deprived themselves from sleep by waking up 3-4 times in one night, sometimes they dont even have a good night sleep, just to take care of me, stay awake all night and wake me up to give me medicine in the middle of the night. Drive me to clinic to see doctor in the middle of the night if I vomited. They will be very worried if I sick, and they will continue deprived themselves from sleep and worried until I was fully recovered.

When I was 3 years old, I accidentally stepped on a dead bee with the poisonous sting on it and hurts my leg, my mother is the first one who carried me up and took out the sting for me.

When I was 5 years old hits by a motorcycle on the street, both my parents quickly rush me to the Clinic because I was shocked after being hit by the motorcyclist.

I was very weak when I was a small kid and my guts can hardly tolerate after drinking milk, and I used to have diarrhea after drinking milk, my parents spent large amount of money to bring me to see many doctors to treat me. One of the doctors told my parents that I could hardly tolerate any milk so they may need to buy special milk, which is more expensive. My parents bought the milk for me even thought we were not very rich that moment, just to make sure that I could grow like a normal kids.

When I was 6-9 years old, my parents would bring me to go play around in the park, play badminton, play water, play tennis in the park, bring me eat Mcdonald’s, KFC, bring me go playground to play together. Whatever I wanted to buy, which most of the time influenced by my friends in school, if it is within their affordable range and if they think will not cause harm to me, they will try their best to buy it for me.

When I first entered primary school, my mother will prepare a lunch box for me to bring to school, to make sure that I have a healthy and delicious food to eat. She would make sure that I have enough food to eat everyday by preparing lunch for me before going to school and everytime I came back from school, the dinner was ready on the table.

I was being forced to go tuition during primary school. When I was in primary school, sometimes we do not have transport so my mother walked together with me to the tuition centre, underneath the hot sun, walk along the street, taking taxi, taking bus, in order to send me to the tuition centre, she will wait me outside the tuition centre for 2 hours before she walked me back home again.

Every year during Chinese New Year, my mum would make new clothes for me, sometimes both of my parents bring me to the shopping complex to buy new clothes, to make sure that I have nice clothes.

During secondary school, in order to make earn income for home, my mother helped the family babysitting children to gain more money for home. Sometimes, the baby woke up in the middle of the night crying non-stop and my mother was forced to wake up at night to take care of the baby. Sometimes, she hardly sleeps more than 4 hours in one night because taking care of the baby. I was awakened by the crying sound every time the baby cried but I pretend I was still sleeping, so I know how much time my mother sleep during that period.

When I was studying secondary school, I used to go out with friends until 4-5 am in the morning, maybe because during that time “peer pressure” within me, my mum would wait for me to come back by sleeping in the living room.

Even now, I am a university student, everytime I went back to Penang, my mother would surely asks what I want to eat, because she knows that I like her cooking. She will go to the market everyday I went back in my hometown, she will buy fishes, prawns and craps back home from the market, and cook for me. Just because she knows that, I love to eat those foods !!! She would spent whole day in the kitchen, cutting vegetables, frying chicken, cooking soup, cleaning the fish. Most of the most she will cook until sweat all over the body, everytime I told her told her that she no need to be so busy and we can easily go out and buy dinner back home, but she replied me that she enjoy cooking for her son ( L so touch!!).

When I coming back from hometown, she will surely buy a lot of dried food, like biscuits, cookies, fruits, BRAND’s, Vitamin, Milk, Milo, Oat and packed it nicely within a big bag for me to bring home. Just to make sure that I have something to eat back there.

-TO BE CONTINUE-

Our parents

看父母就是看自己的未來
如果你在一個平凡的家庭長大
如果你的父母還健在
不管你有沒有和他們同住
如果有一天，你發現媽媽的廚房不再像以前那麼乾淨
如果有一天，你發現家中的碗筷好像沒洗乾淨
如果有一天，你發現母親的鍋子不再雪亮
如果有一天，你發現父親的花草樹木已漸荒廢
如果有一天，你發現家中的地板衣櫃經常沾滿灰塵
如果有一天，你發現 母親煮的菜太鹹太難吃
如果有一天，你發現父母經常忘記關瓦斯
如果有一天，你發現老父老母的一些習慣不再是習慣時，就像他們不再想要天天洗澡時
如果有一天，你發現父母不再愛吃青脆的蔬果
如果有一天，你發現父母愛吃煮得爛爛的菜
如果有一天，你發現父母喜歡吃稀飯如果有一天，你發現他們過馬路行動反應都慢了
如果有一天，你發現在吃飯時間他們老是咳個不停
千萬別誤以為他們感冒或著涼，( 那是吞嚥神經老化的現象)

如果有一天，你發覺他們不再愛出門 …
如果有這麼一天
我要告訴你，你要警覺父母真的已經老了
器官已經退化到需要別人照料了
如果你不能照料，請你替他們找人照料
並請你請你千萬千萬要常常探望
不要讓他們覺得被遺棄了
每個人都會老
父母比我們先老
我們要用角色互換的心情去照料他
才會有耐心、才不會有怨言
當父母不能料理自己的時候，為人子女要警覺，
他們可能會大小便失禁、可能會很多事都做不好，
如果房間有異味，可能他們自己也聞不到，
請不要嫌他髒或嫌他臭，為人子女的只能幫他清理，
並請維持他們的『自尊心』。
當他們不再愛洗澡時，
請抽空定期幫他們洗身體，
因為縱使他們自己洗也可能洗不乾淨。
當我們在享受食物的時候，
請替他們準備一份大小適當、容易咀嚼的一小碗，
因為他們不愛吃可能是牙齒咬不動了。
從我們出生開始，
餵奶換尿布、生病的不眠不休照料、
教我們生活基本能力、供給讀書、吃喝玩樂和補習，
關心和行動永遠都不停歇。
如果有一天，
他們真的動不了了，
角色互換不也是應該的嗎？
為人子女者要切記，
看父母就是看自己的未來，
孝順要及時。
如果有一天，
你像他們一樣老時，你希望怎麼過？
現在的你，
是在當單身寄生蟲、還是已婚雙料或多料寄生蟲？
你留意過自己的父母嗎？
樹欲靜而風不止、子欲養而親不在
您的父母還有多少時間等您?

My reason to start blogging.

Well..well, here am I again!!!!! Since I stop blogging for 1 year, now I am here with a brand new blog. Everytime I look at my friend's blog, I really wonder, why some people so fond in spending 1-2 hours sitting in front of their PC and typing down what they've done today, where have they been today, what did they eat today.......Why dont just keep the feeling among ourselves?? Well, maybe their reason are same as mine. The reason for me to start this blog is I hope that I can write down everyhing I that I saw in the hospital, what I learned from my patients, what the patients taught me, my life as a medical student in Seremban, my desire to become a good doctor in the future. I would also like to write about my social life, life with my family member, my girlfriend, my friend, my lecturer, BASICALLY everyone that appears in my life. Each of us have our own life, I am sure you have yours too. Each of us will feel that our life is the most unique and most colourful for ourselves. Well, I hope I could write down all my feeling in the my daily activities, my experiences during the process of growing up to become a man. Because I know I will grow old 1 day and my memory will sure deteriorate, so I wish that I hace written something here so that next time when i'm old, when I maybe even cant recall where I stay and what is my name, I can remember the all the colourful events AND all the stepping stones in my life by reading this.